I’m delighted to announce that this morning in the local supermarket, after almost 10 years living in The Netherlands, a Dutch guy actually flirted with me. Openly and brutally, using full force of his green eyes and a killer smile.

I was so flabbergasted with his move that I almost invited him to my home to reward him for his bravery! (Unfortunately last minute my sense of decency and responsibility came trough.)

I hear from my Dutch friends that Dutch guys do look and flirt, but they seems to be very discreet in doing it. My female friends and clients (I’m a shrink), non Dutch origin, have the same complain (guys here do not flirt and do not approach girls in the bars, on the parties etc).

I come from a culture where Eros is playing a major role in every activity man can possible think about and I must say that I miss a smell of it in Dutch cuisine and in general living.

I’m curious to know what your experience is expat people?
Also would like to hear from Dutch guys reading this post am I a possibly missing out something or is any cultural (protestant) background which limit Dutch people in expressing their sexuality in everyday (shopping) activity?

Please stay kind in your comments, this post it is not meant to be an insult for anyone and especially not for a Dutch man who might not be flirty but are often very sweet!