This blog is a result of me posting a discussion about flirting capabilities of the Dutch man, in one of the group on Facebook. The tread kept going on and on, for days. (The post you can see on this blog, the treads unfortunately not.)
Obviously talking flirting means bringing Eros in, and people do want to get involved with Eros, it is fun!
On the other hand a lot of frustration has appeared in all the comments; frustration about flirting, dating and loneliness. One of the guys shared with us a study showing that 40% of the people in The Netherlands feel lonely and among non-Dutch population this percentage is even higher- 60%.
I will not go on here talking why we expats feel so lonely in The Netherlands, but I would just add that loneliness is one of the tributaries feeding into the rivers of anxiety and depression. But loneliness doesn’t just effect your psychological well being. It has a hold on heart disease, immunity function, nervous system disorders and many other illnesses. It is not wrong to say that many of the health issues in the world stem from loneliness. No wonder that my colleagues (psychologists and psychotherapists) and I have so much work nowadays. And it is not related only to The Netherlands, it is a universal experience.
So, do not be lonely, go out and give it a shot with other fellow humans. Flirt, never know, maybe you’ll make friends, lovers or other.
As a solution for a problem we got a Facebook group started: The flirting of minds and manners” – https://www.facebook.com/groups/399474840263588/.
We try to discus flirting, love, sex, relationships ..overthere, on a friendly and flirty way.
Join us, it might be fun. And health protective!